Happiness Is Not Rocket Science

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Three Simple Things Happy People Do Everyday

Take a look around you and try to spot a happy person. Now by happy I mean content, really content. And believe me, we can all more or less detect who is really happy. Take a look at that happy person you have spotted and try to see what’s different about them? If you do so, you will discover that there is an energy around that person that almost instantaneously draws you. They pull you in without your resistance. It’s as if they had an invisible forcefield that attracts you. And once you get closer to that person, you will see certain traits in them that set them apart from the so-called „unhappy“ folks. Let me tell you three simple things I have discovered about truly happy people.

Happy people do kind things, first for themselves, then for others

To be able to be there for others, to lend them a hand, to be a shoulder to cry on, to listen, and to do all those generous things kind people do, you will have to make sure that you are coming frrom an emotionally safe place yourself. It’s like that oxygen mask on the plane you need to place on your own face first before you are able to put on your child’s face. If you don’t take care of yourself, you are not going to be able to take care of another. If you don’t do kind things for yourself, you will not put yourself in a position that will be conducive to doing kind things for others. Being generous and kind requires having your own stores of positive energy, which can only be replenished by continuously engaging in kind actions towards yourself. Abandoning yourself is the surest and fastest way of finding your stores depleted. Once you are kind to yourself,  you will feel more positive and willing to be kind to others. Happiness is inevitably the most prominent offspring of kindness. If you’re kind to yourself, you’ll be kind to others. In other words, when you make yourself happy, you are able to make others happy as well.

Happy people are grateful people

Gratitude is not overrated. Its benefits are way more obvious than any vitamin supplements you might be taking. Gratefulness goes together with mindfulness, which is focussing on the present and cherishing what you do have in the present moment rather than longing for something you might be feeling a lack of. By being grateful for what you have, you only put your mental focus on a positive field of energy that breeds positive emotions. Expressing gratitude promotes positive feelings, and positive feelings promote feelings of joy and happiness. The more frequent this mindful practice of gratitude, the broader your mindset in the realm of the positive. Once gratitude becomes your permanent mindset, you are going to think and behave in positive ways that can only lead to more and more positive things and events in your life. It’s like muscle training. The more you flex what I call your „gratefulness muscles“, the more life will hand you happy and joyful reasons to be even more grateful for. Gratefulness breeds happiness, not the other way around.

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Happy people smile more often than not

One of the first decisions you will make, if you want to be happy, is to be happy! This might sound absurd, but it’s actually very straight forward. Happiness is a choice not some random good luck. We all have our shares of what we call good and bad times. Nobody is exempt! One of the very first things happy people do is to choose to be happy. If you practice kindness and gratefulness, you have many reasons to smile. A kind person does not frown while being kind. A grateful person does not have a sour face while feeling grateful. Be kind, be grateful and you will find yourself smiling more often. It costs nothing, and the rewards will be abundant. Of course you can’t force yourself to smile if you are nasty and mean to others. You cannot have a genuine smile if all you are thinking of is hurting or tricking someone else. To feel good you have to do good. Once this becomes your conscious choice, you will have no other outcome than happiness. And by all means, do express the happiness you feel by smiling. A smile is easy to pass on. It is contagious like a yawn. Don’t be discouraged, though, if some people do not return your smile. It is not you, it’s them. They might be lacking empathy. Not everyone has empathy. The same way some people are short-sighted, some are hard of hearing, some have speech impediments……some people don’t have empathy. They will not reciprocate your smile because they don’t feel endeared. They don’t feel endeard because they lack empathy. And keep in mind, people who lack empathy, do not know that they lack empathy.So they do not suffer. That’s why it is very important not to expect them to return your smile and even more important not to suffer if they don’t. Keep up the good work and pass on the good vibes regardless. Don’t let anything or anyone discourage you.

At the end of the day, you really don’t have to do much to be happy. Real happiness is more attainable than you think. Your reactions to the events of your life are what creates your state of mind. Happiness is nothing but a state of mind that is solely created by you. If you really want to be happy, you need to work on it everyday, and this work is really very simple. It is not rocket science. Be mindful, be grateful, be kind, and life will automatically put a genuine, heartfelt, happy smile on your face, which you can pass on to the rest of the world. You can pass it on because you will really feel it from within. You will feel it everyday because you practice it everyday. You will practice it everyday because you will see how easy it is. And that’s what happiness really is. Some of the easiest things in life are among those we assume to be the hardest.

Just try.

Have you done your inside job lately?